You are amazing.  Yes, I mean you.  The fact that you are here looking for answers, suggestions, ideas, is a beautiful thing.  You are a special person and your man is very lucky to have you in his life.  I am extremely lucky because I also have a very special woman that I can talk to about my struggles.  My wife has been open, easy to talk to, and very supportive.

Here are my suggestions for you…the caring female in this relationship.

Be patient.  It’s possible that he doesn’t really have a serious issue.  There is so much bad information floating around he might be taking a supplement or modifying his diet in an unsuccessful way.  It’s a struggle psychologically for him and any additional pressure that you might create by being impatient will make things worse.

Be supportive. Calm, caring and collected…that’s you.  If he wants to talk about it, listen.  If he doesn’t want to talk about it, don’t.  You’re here and that shows tremendous support so you are already doing a great job.  He is going to have changes to his lifestyle, diet, drinking habits, and you can support him and encourage him.  Since you probably do the bulk of the grocery shopping, you’ll need to be reading the ingredients and buying the right foods.

Your mood.  Do you nag at him?  He needs down time.  He needs to be able to do his projects.  He needs to be able to do his hobbies.  He needs to be able to do new things.  His state of mind and well-being will affect his testosterone levels.  You have the ability to disrupt that by the way you treat him, talk to him, and pressure him.

Morning sex.  Most testosterone production happens during the sleep cycle.  Quality sleep is very important for hormonal health (yours too).  When the hormones are working properly, your man should experience night wood and morning wood.  Nocturnal penile tumescence is the proper term.  Increased blood flow to the penis is just his body’s way of keeping things healthy.  He’s most likely to be ‘up’ in the morning as that will be the peak of his testosterone for the day.  Testosterone levels will drop throughout the day and by the evening, he might not be feeling it.  Morning is a good time to bounce him since he’s likely to be up, into it, and able to maintain a good erection.  This will help get his body out of the ‘use it or lose it cycle’ and it will help boost his confidence if he’s struggling with a psychological issue.

Have sex.  Use it or lose it is a real thing.  Having sex increases testosterone production.  Once things start working, it’s important to keep them working.  Taking a week off isn’t a good idea.  Keep at it and have fun.

Initiate sex.  Most women won’t do this.  They may feel ashamed or embarrassed depending on their upbringing and their beliefs.  You letting him know that you want sex can be a powerful trigger.  He may experience a primal instinct and his body may respond by feeling a ‘need to please you’.  I’ve experienced this with my wife and that’s the best way I can describe it.  At times when I’ve felt blocked or lower drive, I’ve been ‘up for it’ right away when she lets me know that she wants it.  You have that kind of power at your disposal.

Be his workout partner.  He needs to exercise and so do you.  You will both benefit from it.  Aside from the health benefits, this is a chance to bond, to be friends, to be partners, and it’s a chance for him to see you in a different way.  He will likely find it a turn on that you want to exercise with him.  There are many different ways to workout but for hormonal balance, I believe there is an easy workout that you can both do together that will give both of you the same benefits.  That workout and others are available in my ebook, “Title”.